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Asalamoalaka ya Hazrat
Bibi Khadija a.s.
She had a cousin called Waraqa bin Naufal who was very learned man and who was not an idol worshipper. Both Waraqa and Bibi Khadija believed in one Allah. Becauise of her excellent Akhlaq the Arabs (who at that time used to look down upon women) called her Tahira - the pure one. She was also known as the 'princess of Makka' because of her wealth. A lot of Arab nobles and princess wanted to marry her but she refused all of them. In 595 AD, Bibi Khadija was looking for someone to be in charge of her caravan to Syria. Abu Talib suggested the Prophet to her. She had heard of his trustworthiness and agreed to employ him although he did not have much trading experience. To help him she sent her slave Maysara. The trading caravan was a great success and when Bibi Khadija heard of the Prophet's skills and excellent conduct, she became his admirer. Soon it was arranged for Bibi Khadija to be married to the Prophet (S.A.W). Abu Talib read the Nikah on behalf of the Prophet whilst Waqara read it for Bibi Khadija. Abu Talib paid the mehr for his nephew and fed the people of Makka for 3 days in celebration. Bibi Khadija too fed the people. The marriage was a very happy one and their first child was a son called Qasim. The second was Abdullah. Both died in infancy. Their third and last child was Bibi Fatema Zahra (A.S).
When the Prophet used to go to meditate in the cave of Hira on Jabel An Noor, it was Bibi Khadija herself who would climb up there to give him his food and necesseries. Bibi Khadija was the first person to accept Islam as taught by the Prophet (S.A.W). In 616 AD, the Quraysh isolated the Bani Hashim (the family of the Prophet) and they took refuge ina ravine called Shib e' Abu Talib. Bibi Khadija was there too and it was her wealth (which she donated for Islam) that sustained the Muslims at that time. The seige lasted for 3 years during which time they experienced hunger, thirst, and the cold and heat of the desert. In 619 AD, Bibi Khadija died. When she died nothing was left of her wealth. Abu Talib died in this year too. The Prophet called the year Aamul Huzn (the year of grief).
HAZRAT
KHADIJEH
R.A MOTHER OF THE ORPHANS
For this reason, Khadijeh (S.A.)
ordered her servants to never close the doors of her house to any
poor person and to always have ready at hand the things the poor
needed. She commanded her servants to inform her whenever a poor
person wanted to talk to her or wanted something from her during
the day or night. She could not bear the thought that a poor
leaves her house in sorrow, not having received something from
her. So the deprived and poor knew
the way to Khadijeh's house and called that house, "The house of
hope and security." More than any other, the orphans sought refuge
in her house, because Khadijeh (S.A.) sympathized with them a lot
and she would care for them in a motherly way. So they called her
"Ummul Yatama", meaning, "The Mother of the Orphans". Having talked about Khadijeh's (S.A.)
house, the following lines will help you gain a conception of her
house. The house where lived Khadijeh (S.A.)
and from where she performed all the benevolent tasks for the
poor, was one of the nicest in Mecca. It had two floors, each one
of which was decorated by a small balcony. The northern section of
the house so faced the Ka'aba (House of Allah) that the latter
could be seen from its small windows. In addition to this, the
visitors to Allah's house could be seen too. The windows of the
other three sides faced three of Mecca's roads and every passenger
entering Mecca could be seen from those windows. There was a green
dome at the top of the building, which made it look a hundred
times more beautiful. The interior of the house was divided into
two sections, one of which Khadijeh (S.A.) kept for private usage
and where no one was allowed without her permission. She chose the northern section
of the house, which faced the Ka'aba as her living quarters, and
from there she stood in front of the house of Allah and prayed to
Him everyday. The other section of Khadijeh's
(S.A.) house was for the guests. Special servants entertained the
guests, looking after their needs. Everybody was satisfied when
they left Khadijeh's house. This is why all the people living in
the region would call Khadijeh's house, "the house of generosity
and kindness". In hard times, people would go and come back, hands
full and happy. We can say that the section of Khadijeh's house
open to the public was home to many homeless, the poor, refugees,
orphans and the oppressed. If anyone was looking for shelter,
people would send him to Khadijeh's house. A famous writer described
Khadijeh's house as follows: "Every orphan who didn't have
anyone to depend on, Every father who couldn't get
food for his children, Every woman who was homeless, Everybody who suffered and
became shelter less, All of them knew the way to
Khadijeh's (S.A.) house and went there. They took refuge in her kindness
and wealth. The sore hearts of those people
were treated with her favour and grace." This was why Khadijeh's house
was always full of people. Whole day and night, there were coming
and going activities there. Khadijeh (S.A.) would come to that
section accessible to the public a few hours everyday. She would
sit with her poor and homeless guests, talk and listen to their
distress and difficulties. She would caress the children and wipe
the tears of the mothers. Then she would call her private servant
and he would bring some bags of money. Khadijeh (S.A.) would then
distribute the money amongst the people. Kind Khadijeh (S.A.) would
always sit with the orphans at dinner and eat with them. She would
herself feed the delicious food to them. She would place her hands
around their faces, caress and kiss them, saying: "My dear
children! Don't feel like orphans. (I am your mother). I will
support and love you like my own child." Khadijeh's (S.A.) support and
protection was not only for the orphans who didn't have any
parents, but also for those who had parents. During those days,
known as Al-Jahiliyya (The age of Ignorance), some fathers who
were narrow-minded and foolish would bury their own daughters
alive, for different foolish reasons. They were proud of this ugly
and indecent act. On every opportunity, they would boast about
what they had done. However, they never thought about the day of
Judgement and that Allah will judge them: "When the female (infant) who
was buried alive will be asked for what sin was she killed."
(Al-Qur'an, 81:8-9) During those days, this ugly and
indecent act was common amongst some Arab tribes. They would kill
their innocent daughters because of poverty and believed that
having a daughter is something to be ashamed of. They would
cowardly bury their daughters alive. Then glowed the light of Islam
forbidding such a practice. Allah says in Al-Qur'an: "And do not kill your
children for fear of poverty; We give them sustenance and
yourselves (too); surely to kill them is a great sin." (Al-Qur'an,
17:31) As a result, when some mothers
gave birth to a girl, their husbands would get angry at them. They
either had to give their daughter to their cruel husband, who was
free to do whatever he wanted to do to the innocent baby, or send
the baby to Khadijeh's (S.A.) house from where it could be
supported and saved from being buried alive. Now we are going to
tell you one of those stories. One night, when darkness covered
the region of the Hejaz (Arabian Peninsula), the wealthy, who had
no conscience, were sleeping in their comfortable beds, putting
their arrogant heads on their comfortable pillows. They were
sleeping comfortably and never bothered about anyone or anything
else as they had everything in the world. Also money was always at
their disposal and they could do whatever they wished, even
irrational. They thought that as long as the earth exists, they
would have power. On the same night, the poor and
helpless people were sleeping in their dirty houses or beside the
walls of some rich person's house in the city or in Khadijeh's (S.A.)
house and they would try to forget all about their sorrow and
misery, at least for that night. During this dark night, the
stars and moon were hiding behind the dark clouds. Not willing to
see the prejudice and inequality amongst the human beings, they
had stopped shining. On that night, everybody was
asleep except Khadijeh (S.A.) and her special servant
and............ Khadijeh (S.A.) was thinking in
her private room. She was swimming in the sea of dreams and had
surrounded herself with the turbulent waves of her thoughts. Then suddenly someone knocked at
her door. Khadijeh (S.A.), still dreaming, lifted her head and
asked: "Who is it?" Someone answered: "It is me, my lady, Maysareh."
Khadijeh (S.A.) replied: "Come in! I am awake. I can't sleep
tonight." The door opened and Khadijeh's special servant, Maysareh,
rushed into the room, all confused. Maysareh said: "As Salaamu
Alaikum, my lady, I am sorry if I am bothering you." Khadijeh (S.A.) replied: "Wa
Alaikum Salaam. What is wrong, Maysareh? I see that you are
worried. Has something happened or...?" Maysareh answered: "No,
no! Don't worry. You yourself said that we should tell you
whenever an indigent, helpless or an oppressed person wanted to
see you." Khadijeh (S.A.) said: "Yes, yes.
I myself said that. Now what has happened and who wants to see me
and why?" Maysareh answered: "My lady, a young woman carrying a
heavy sack has come to the house. She was shaking and crying and
her hair was untidy. She begged me to bring her to you. It seems
that she came here because she is afraid and depressed." Khadijeh (S.A.) answered; "Very
well. There is no problem. Tell her to come in. I myself told you
to call me anytime, day or night if any helpless or homeless
person wanted to see me. Don't let that person leave this house in
sadness or with empty hands". Maysareh went to call the young
woman to take her to Khadijeh's room. Khadijeh (S.A.) started thinking
about that young woman and she told herself: "Oh Allah! What has
happened to this poor woman in the middle of the night? What kind
of problem has she faced that has caused her to leave her house
alone at this time and to come to my house? Who is this helpless
woman? Where does she come from? And why did she come here? Maybe
she is a mother who came here with her sick child so that we can
provide food and medicine for it. "Maybe she is a slave who has
come here because of her unjust master. Or maybe she is a chaste
woman whose house the street ruffians entered by force to kill her
husband or take her innocent child. Maybe none of these, but maybe
her cruel husband wanted to take her innocent daughter away from
her and bury the girl alive under the cold dust of the desert.
Maybe for this reason, she took the baby and brought her here
seeking refuge in my house." Many thoughts occupied the
chaste mind of Khadijeh (S.A.) when suddenly the door opened. A
young woman, whose head and face were covered with a veil,
entered, crying. Tears had completely wet her red and dusty
cheeks. Her arms and legs were shaking out of sorrow and she could
only say: "As Salaamu Alaikum." She then sat down on the floor and
tried to kiss Khadijeh's feet, but the latter stopped her and
hugged her and kissed her face like a kind mother. Khadijeh (S.A.)
asked her: 'my daughter! What has happened? Why are you so upset?
Be sure that whatever I can do I will do for you. Tell me, my
daughter. Tell me what has happened." The young woman moved away from
Khadijeh's embrace and opened the heavy sack and placed it in
front of Khadijeh (S.A.). She removed a beautiful baby from it,
which was like the blossom of spring and hugged it. After the young woman gave the
baby many long and warm kisses while still in tears, she placed
the baby in front of Khadijeh (S.A.) and said: "Oh Lady of Quraish! Oh kind
Khadijeh (S.A.) I beg you, please have mercy upon my baby and me.
Look how beautiful it is and what beautiful black eyebrows it has.
For the sake of Allah look how it looks at me with its sweet eyes.
See what a beautiful smile it has. It seems that the baby
understands what I say because it looks at me this way. The baby
knows that I want to take it away from myself and give it to
somebody else." Then the young woman looked at
the sky and said: "Oh Almighty Allah! Save us from this insecure
and ignorant situation and from dirty deeds. Send us a savior who
can stop this savage situation and the cruel killings. What did
this innocent baby do that makes its father want to bury it alive
with no fear? What did I do wrong that I must give up my baby? The woman prayed to Allah and
then started crying even more. The baby, afraid of her mother's
cries started crying also. Khadijeh (S.A.), who was quiet
until this time, took the woman's lovely baby and hugged it and
sympathetically said to the young woman: "My daughter! Don't
worry. "I will keep and protect your baby like my own daughter, I
know how you feel now and why you are so upset. I am a mother and
I know the heartache of mothers. I will raise her and whenever you
want, you can come here and see your baby." The young woman said: "What if
my husband comes and wants to take her from you? He is an
obstinate person. When I was pregnant, he told me: 'If it is a
boy, he is mine. If it is a girl, it belongs to the grave.' He
repeated this sentence everyday to bother me. "Today when I felt the pains of
delivery, I took refuge in the desert so I could deliver the baby.
There, this beautiful girl was born. I didn't return to the house
because I knew if I took it to the house, it would have meant the
grave for it; as a result, I came to your house because I knew
that my daughter would be protected here. "Oh kind Khadijeh (S.A.)! We,
the women of this region, know you very well. We know that you
protect the orphans better than their parents, but I am still
afraid that my angry husband may come here and get the baby from
you. "He may even hurt me and kill me
for having given the baby to you. But it doesn't matter. Let him
kill me but my daughter will be alive." The young woman uttered these
words and fell down at Khadijeh's (S.A.) feet and started crying
very hard. Khadijeh (S.A.) picked her up and placed her hand on
the dusty hair of the young woman and very kindly said: "My
daughter! I told you not to worry about your baby. I will raise
her like my own baby and I will never give her to your husband. He
can't do anything here. If he comes here, I will hide her. Be sure
that your baby is in a secure place. Now get up and rest a little
bit. You don't feel well. You have come a long way. Leave
everything to Allah because Allah is closer and kinder to a person
than anyone else." After the young woman heard the
kind words of Khadijeh (S.A.), she went to a corner of the room
and fell into a deep sleep. The great Khadijeh (S.A.), whose pure
spirit was shaken by the recent incidents thought very hard about
the things that the young woman had told her. Then she asked
herself: What is this misfortune that is over coming the Arab
fathers, that causes them to become so cruel and conscienceless as
to bury their innocent babies alive with their own hands under
tons of black soil? Do they fear poverty or feel ashamed? The Lady of Quraish kept
thinking about this unfortunate situation and deliberated as to
how long this practice would continue. Having pondered deeply, she
started to pray and commune with Allah. She said: "Oh Allah! I swear by your
Prophets and the people who are close to You. I beg You to send
the Saviour that Jesus and the other Messengers have promised for
these unfortunate and ignorant people so that this ugly, and
unfortunate situation comes to an end. Only then would innocent
mothers be able to hold their unprotected and innocent babies in
their arms." After prayer, she went to sleep.
She dreamt that the sun was rising from the sky and turned several
times around the house of Allah. It then moved towards her house,
where its huge brightness dazzled her eyes. She woke up and realized that
the day of Islam was near. |
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